Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any not obey the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;…let it not be outward adorning…but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

1 Peter 3: 1-4

Do I give my husband reason to think that with all that I am reading in God’s word, has my life changed or am I just reading and not applying His word to my heart. Does he see humility, a servants heart, a wise hand in my daily walk. Have I really examined my own walk, does my husband see me struggle with small and large tasks in my life and overcome them with grace and humility or does he see me grumble and complain and fail because I gave up trying. With me, I am a starter (not a finisher), I start new exercise programs, I start getting up early, I start new cleaning routines, I start little businesses out of my home, I start new projects, I start a new diet. Then, I complain about how this exercise plan is boring or I just don’t have the time, etc etc etc. God has a plan for each of our lives. A really great plan! I beg you (me), to sit down and not pray for one day, and hope that you hear what it is, but to pray for weeks, months, and many years to come, what He needs of you each day. Everyone knows the verse about praying all day long, when your sitting, standing, etc. I used to think who has the time. I pray to Him now when my mouth is closed (this helps me keep it closed longer), when I shower, when I wash dishes, when I am driving, when I mop, when I play, as I sit here writing these words, I pray. Please don’t get discouraged, for that is what satan wants, please give your tears and discouragement to God.

This was my response to a friend of mine on facebook.  We are currently doing a bible study together by Kat called Hellomornings. We started a new week this Monday, and it began with the 1 Peter Chapter 3. Women have backpedaled and became immediately defensive when reading or hearing just the first eight words of this verse.

Ladies, if your husband is amazing and the most humblest Godly man you have ever met, or if you husband is being carried by God and not walking strong in his faith right now, or if your husband is unsaved; it doesn’t matter this verse is for all wives. Our husbands need us to have a gentle spirit, but they also need us to, “open our mouths with wisdom; and in our tongues be the law of kindness,” (Proverbs 31:26)

Personally, when I am around other people that are despairing in their words and attitudes, this does not lift up my heart and make me want to sing praises to our Lord and King. Yet, the more I am around Godly men and women, the more my spirits are lifted. Our husbands need us to be that cheerleader for God and for them. They do not need to come home from work and hear us yelling at the kids, complaining that this house is such a mess, that I will never get this project done. EVERY SINGLE DAY! There is great truth in the saying, “Behind every good man, is a great woman.” What they forget to say is that woman needs to be a great woman of God.



“Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

“Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.”

Proverbs 31:25

“Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.”

Proverbs 31:28

“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

1 Corinthians 10:13

~I added this last verse especially for me, for I know I will be tempted to complain, I know I will tempted to give up, I know I will be tempted to not smile and praise and pray and delight in my home, my kids, and my husband from time to time.

Lastly, I challenge you to , “Be still and know that (he) is God.” (Psalm 46:10)